T-SQL Tuesday #115: Dear 20 Year Old Self

This month our host is Mohammad Darab (b/t) he has given us the subject ‘Dear 20 year old self’. We are supposed to write a letter to ourselves in our early twenties.  I am writing this a couple of days late because I was out of town and did not get it done for Tuesday, but I still wanted to put it out there.  I love the topic and want to thank Mohammad for hosting this month.

This is a topic that I think about at times, usually around my birthday.  It is interesting that our host posted this after his 41st birthday.  I snicker at people who think they are old when they are 41.  You have a long way to go and there are going to be so many new things in your life.  It might seem like you have lost your youth, but you are not even close.

My advice to my 20 year old self is to continue to listen to your heart, it will not lead you astray.  I have made several career and personal decisions since I was 20.  Some were easy to make, others took some deep reflection.  But when I listened to my heart, I feel like I made the right decision for me.

The second thing I would tell myself is don’t be afraid to try new things.  I am where I am today because I tried new things and moved to new places.  You don’t know if you will like something until you try it, so give it a shot.  If you don’t like it, that is ok.  You can move on.  But don’t have any regrets in the future because you did not try something when you had the chance.

One of the hardest decisions I had to make was to leave my life in Texas to move back to Colorado to be near my parents.  I had a great social life and really didn’t want to leave, but my dad was having heart surgery and I wanted to be with him.  I didn’t know how many years I would have to spend with him.  My dad lived 20 years after his heart surgery and during that time we built a better, stronger relationship.  And my friends in Texas are still my friends in Texas.  I would not change a thing because there is no way I would get that time with my dad back.

I won’t say that I have had a perfect life, and there are things I wish I would have done when I was younger like buy stock in Apple a long time ago and buy a house in Denver before the real estate boom began.  But I have some of the best people in my life that I feel that if I had changed anything earlier, these people may not be in my life right now.  And these people are very important to me…more important material items.